Taking the Bucket Out of the Bucket List, Part 2
by Karen S. Wiesner
In this
final of an updated, two part reprisal of earlier posts on the Alien Romances
blog, I discuss the wisdom and benefits of, and strategies for, drawing up a
personal bucket list as early as possible--long before the curtain of a life is
drawn. Only slightly belated as you
draw up your New Year’s resolutions, I encourage everyone, not just those
interested in writing (or aliens!), to read this.
Last week we went over
what a bucket list is, and I discussed my own realizations of wanting to
achieve my most desired goals early enough in life to enjoy them throughout all
the days of my life that followed. Let's continue with actual strategies for
forging ahead.
Taking the Next
Step--Are You Ready?
Coming up with a formal
or informal bucket list as early in life as possible will help anyone focus
their time and energies in areas they're already passionate about as well as
provide excitement, inspiration, and the push toward finding purpose and a
sense of accomplishment long before the curtain of a life is drawn.
While I was working on
this article, I was asked a couple questions that are worth considering on your
own as you decide whether you're ready to take the bull by the horns yourself.
Had I been making bucket lists since my
twenties, or did I just start making them recently?
All things considered, I’d have to conclude I’ve actually been making them
mentally since I was 20 and I just never really realized that was what I was
doing all this time.
Would I
have benefited in my twenties by formally writing my goals down? Have I
benefited now for writing them down versus just thinking about my plans in my
head? I suppose the blanket answer to
these two questions that feed into each other is about the same: It might have
benefited me to formally write down my bucket list goals at any point; however,
I’ve always had a mind like a relentless robot seeking out all the dark corners
of my own soul. For me, it didn’t really make a huge difference to officially
spell out my goals for myself. What you've seen presented in this article is
what I saw in my head from the beginning. That said, I think most people
probably will benefit greatly from actually make their bucket lists formal
plans with loose or definitive goals.
I have several pieces of
advice to those wanting to forge ahead into a life lived with purpose:
A. Choose wisely. You don't
have to feel like you're required to have a certain number of goals on your
list. I have four, which is a nice, even number, but if you only ever have one,
that's fine. You can add to it if you want to (no pressure) at any time as you
complete or become proficient at priority items. This thing isn't set in stone,
nor should it be. If you discover one of your wishes isn't really something you
like after all, well, you've learned something about yourself you didn't know
before, right? That said, you do want to include on this list only things that you're strongly
zealous about and are deeply committed to fulfilling. This is another reason
why limiting the list is advisable. There's no point in having a checklist of
this kind that includes a bunch of things you're not serious enough to actually
make deliberate preparations in undertaking. I don't think anyone needs another
random to-do list lying around collecting dust.
B. Prioritize your bucket
list in the order of the things you want to accomplish first and last, and don't
try to take on the whole list at once. That's a recipe for failure. Start with
the top one, the most important to you, and make a serious go of completing
and/or developing it over time, perhaps even years. Make this part of your
daily or weekly life. The whole reason for doing this long in advance of having
an actual deadline (especially one as final as death!) is to accomplish things
you enjoy and may spend the rest of your life taking pleasure in and
cultivating. In many cases, the items on your list will require an investment:
Of time, discipline, energy, money, and frequently all of the above. Trust me,
you're embarking on a labor of love with any one of these.
C. Make a plan for how to
go about fulfilling the items on your bucket list, one at a time. Set goals
over time so you're doing something toward making the wish reality. Make a
commitment to forging ahead with your goals. Start small, if you need to, and
make initially small investments of time, energy, and finances. Work into the
passion that can motivate you to keep going bigger and better. I know a lot of
people can't think of long-term projects that require large investments of
time, energy, or money because their lives are busy, complicated, and/or
they're financially unable. In those situations, creativity may be needed to
get started. Devote just five, ten, fifteen minutes--whatever you can eke out
every day or once a week to advance your project. Take free classes at your local
library or online. Ask close friends and family to gift you with an item you
need for a birthday or Christmas. Small, slow, and frugal can produce results
eventually, too!
D. Define your reasons for
what you hope to accomplish with each item on your bucket list if for no other
reason than that you set yourself on a path toward seeing where it's going, or
where it could be going. I wanted to
understand my motivations clearly from the start, whether I intended to advance
in these areas for individual edification or for something more--such as, my
drawing could potentially lead to an exciting new career for me in the future.
E. Only you can decide if
your pursuits are worthwhile. Don't let yourself or anyone else tell you that
something you've chosen to do isn't meaningful or significant. The goal of
personal development is
valuable--whatever your chosen aspiration. At the very least, anything you
achieve is one regret you'll never have to feel.
Nearly three decades
after I started pursuing the wishes on my informal bucket list, I find myself
realizing that as I look back over what I've managed to accomplish, I'm
satisfied. If my time in this world ended tomorrow, I would feel as though I
lived with purpose and that I'd accomplished something worthwhile. Instead of
waiting until I was close to kicking the bucket, you might say I took the
bucket out of my bucket list. I took the bull by the horns, and I'm reaching
for previously categorized "don't even bother wishing 'cause they can't
come true" things and I'm making them a passionate part of my everyday
reality, one at a time, step by step, until my time runs out.
If you're interested in
taking the bucket out of your own bucket list, jumping in now on the things you've always wanted to do, the worksheet below might
be helpful in getting you started. You can and should come back to this often
in the future to revise and hone your goals, re-strategizing as you make
progress from one item to the next. Remember, small, slow, and cheap still
means moving forward.
My Bucket List
Date: (may include the dates of whenever you've revised)
What's in My Bucket
Wishes: (listed in order of priority, #1 being the one I'm most
passionate about and the one I'll get started on first)
#1
When and how will I
begin to reach for things in my bucket?
a) How long do I want to
experience this goal? Circle one: Once | Ongoing | Until I'm finished
b) Detail the first step to
beginning:
c) Describe later steps to
developing my goal:
d) Specify the time(s) and
day(s) I'm devoting to the undertaking:
e) Brainstorm strategies to
help accomplish my wish:
f) Identify why this is in
my bucket and what I hope to get out of it:
#2
When and how will I
begin to reach for things in my bucket?
a) How long do I want to
experience this goal? Circle one: Once | Ongoing | Until I'm finished
b) Detail the first step to
beginning:
c) Describe later steps to
developing my goal:
d) Specify the time(s) and
day(s) I'm devoting to the undertaking:
e) Brainstorm strategies to
help accomplish my wish:
f) Identify why this is in
my bucket and what I hope to get out of it:
You can find a PDF of this worksheet here: https://karenwiesner.weebly.com/uploads/2/3/5/5/23554234/bucketlistcourtesyofkarenwiesnertypeb.pdf
For those who are more goal-oriented, Type A
personalities like myself, you might want an even more vigorous plan of attack.
For that, I offer a more in-depth worksheet, which you can find here: https://karenwiesner.weebly.com/uploads/2/3/5/5/23554234/bucketlistcourtesyofkarenwiesnertypea.pdf, or you could even
incorporate the heart of the bucket list ideals into a SMART goals program (a
simple internet search will hook you up for that).
"Seize the life and
the day will follow!" ~Linda Derkez
Karen Wiesner
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