Showing posts with label Indiana Jones. Show all posts
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Tuesday, April 03, 2012

The Education of an Action Romance Hero

Officially,  the 2005 film titled SAHARA is described thusly:
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Master explorer Dirk Pitt goes on the adventure of a lifetime of seeking out a lost Civil War battleship known as the "Ship of Death" in the deserts of West Africa while helping a UN doctor being hounded by a ruthless dictator. (124 mins.)
Director: Breck Eisner
Stars: Matthew McConaughey, Penélope Cruz, Steve Zahn, William H. Macy
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There are a lot of DVD's on Amazon titled SAHARA - this is the 2005 movie about treasure hunters looking for a battleship in the desert -- As I was watching ( logging the SAVE THE CAT! "beats" with part of my mind), I was imagining the story I would have written:  LIKE THIS: “ Indiana Jones on Tatooine with McGiver for a sidekick and Captain Kirk in orbit ”


The film SAHARA also reminds me of the Action-Romance film ROMANCING THE STONE -- the two-guys-and-a-tough-gal in a chase/battle for life and limb (with larger stakes beyond themselves) format is now an entrenched classic, though there was a time when the gal was only there to be rescued and do stupid things to get caught again.

Looking at the dates - early 1980's to just before 2008, I think these films hit big because they were hammering away at a stereotype the people of theater-going-age desperately wanted to break (all females are helpless, or if not, are "Evil.")  Power in the hands of a woman turns Dark, or destroys the woman.

Today, (2012) we have NEW STEREOTYPES that the teens of this time will hammer away at.  These are recently born stereotypes, almost too new to be called cliche.  Yet the rate of change in our society has exploded to the point where the brand new stereotype is an old cliche before the movies to challenge it have been shown in theaters.

We're seeing those challenges I think in the "Indie" market - the films made on low budget by the brilliant producers honing their craft on YouTube and Vimeo.

The question the beginning writer must answer is, "What are today's stereotypes?"

I suspect you'll find a lot of answers by examining the condition of "the family" in today's world.

Statistics recently posted indicate that a man and a woman who marry and raise their kids in a structured, family environment, have a much MUCH lower chance of unemployment, poverty, -- and I haven't yet seen the statistic but I suspect someone is crunching numbers on the juvenile delinquency rate.  We do have a "bullying" problem erupting in the early grades of schools, a precursor to real trouble in life (both for the bully and the victim).

One development we have seen between 1980 and 2010 is the advent in the Romance Genre of the novel centering on the divorced or single-parent woman finding true romance the second (or third) time around, despite having attained a sense of total independence -- or perhaps because of it.

The broken family mends, might be the theme of that sub-genre.

The stereotype that may be forming (to be broken soon) would be that seen by the children of these "broken" marriages -- the next generation looking back and seeing "family" and the distaste, strife, and even real hatred between their parents and their grandparents.

"The Family" broke during those decades along two axes -- horizontally via divorce rate, and vertically as children found the "generation gap" (that has always existed) widening beyond comprehension.

It's probably not irrelevant to include the advent of the internet as a household utility between 1980 and 2010.  The cell phone revolution of the 1990's just added fuel to the fire.  Social networking, Web 2.0 and up, ebooks, and a whole new curriculum in the schools widen that vertical gap.

I do hope by now you've all read Alvin Toffler's non-fiction book, FUTURE SHOCK -- he predicted all this and more.  If you are looking for the next stereotype to break and sell a blockbuster movie, read that book.
Toffler notes that the public school system in the U.S.A. (an innovation that changed the world, PUBLIC schooling) has always been the tool of industry, politically dominated in such a way as to turn out workers suitable for the jobs that industry needs to fill.

The nature of the jobs needing filling has shifted markedly in this 30 year period -- to the point where those educated in the 1980's public schools don't qualify for modern jobs unless they've acquired more certificates or skills, degrees, and resume items in between.

The "covert curriculum" that Toffler points out prevailed in the 1970's actually cripples folks for the workforce today -- it shifted and then shifted again.  But then in the 1990's or so, the covert curriculum in the schools was turned much more "overt" -- saying "on the nose" that the purpose of schooling is to prepare you to work a job rather than to educate you to think for yourself.

Some of this peaked as the Unions became powerful enough to challenge industry's control of the job market, setting the idea that the monetary compensation for a "job" should be determined by what the worker thinks it should be - not what the employer thinks the job actually produces.

And another notion ebbed and flowed all the way into the university level -- that the purpose of education was to learn certain things are true, and others are not true.  That the world "should" be this way, but never "that" way.

I've had some long, deep conversations with teachers retiring from the workforce who have taught at the High School and college levels (and I know some Middle School teachers too) who have felt this shifting wind of philosophy altering the textbooks.

Two rules I've seen imposed that exemplify this shift creating a new stereotype that new films will attack:

A) If one student in a class misbehaves, punish the entire class.  There are no individuals, just the group, and the whole group is responsible for the behavior of individuals.

B) Never allow students to read ahead in the textbook, or ask questions from the "next chapter."  The full weight of Teacher Authority must squash any notion that a student should teach themselves without supervision.

The covert curriculum thus becomes control of the group by authority.

Now this is not yet entirely visible across the nation, not at all.  It turns up here and there, gets dismissed, turns up again, and is tossed out.  Parents get outside tutoring for their children, take them to dance and music classes and all those things that break the grip of the public school authority.

But just anecdotal evidence from teachers I've spoken to indicates it's a rising tide not a receding one.  The children who grew up trained by authority not to teach themselves are almost at the level of being in charge of things.  The main result of having gone through school being punished for the misbehavior of others (over whom we have no control) is to hammer at government to CONTROL the misbehavior of others lest it hurt us.

Safety from the misbehavior of others and a deep seated conviction (irrational as it may be) that we can't solve problems that haven't been solved before, may be creating an even wider generation gap, or a very wide gap between spouses.

In the 1970's, the biggest business and the biggest category of self-help books was the DO-IT-YOURSELF industry (father of Home Depot).  Today, you don't do-it-yourself, you go to Home Depot and ask a clerk how to do it and what to buy.

The oldest joke since the popularization of the automobile is the difference between the husband and wife as they try to find an unfamiliar location.  Ask or read the map?  That's gone now by the GPS!

So, the writer should be asking, "Will the imposition of Authority over Thinking For Yourself bring us together and heal the Family?"

 At one time, "Father Knows Best" -- a man was King of his Castle and the wife had to shut up and take orders.  That let at least half the people in the world vent their frustrations at being bossed around at work on their stay-at-home-do-nothing-but-rest-all-day spouse.

Did we have healthy family dynamics then?  Do we need to go "back" to that?  Or forward into something new that's never been tried before in human history?

In the film SAHARA the characters are on a treasure hunt -- and they find more than they were looking for, but only after harrowing, near-death experiences that only miracles could rescue them from (yes like INDIANA JONES).

Take the beat structure from SAHARA, strip out the subject matter, and replace it with THE FAMILY.  That's the treasure the treasure hunter searches for - the HEA.

Remember in the HEA ending, the Happily Ever After of the Romance story, the result of happiness is children (one way or another).  That means HEA is the equivalent of FOUNDING A FAMILY though "Romance Genre" doesn't usually deal with after the wedding.

Ancestry.com is a very big and growing web-based enterprise now.  People are curious about their distant heritage (even if they hate their parents).

Yes, I know, you don't hate your parents -- nor do I.  But if you watch a few TV series, you'll see the modern "cliche" stereotype when the parents come to visit.  There's always anticipation of strife, and then really serious strife -- sometimes it's resolved in the show, or at least partially, but the RIFT between generations is routinely portrayed as so common it doesn't need explaining to the audience.

The other thing you see mentioned offhandedly with the implication that the audience understands the nature of the strife implied -- that's the phrase "my Ex"  -- everyone has an Ex and knows what meetings with him/her mean.  Strife.  Galore.

The reason Romance Genre doesn't deal with "after the wedding" is that we, as a culture, now expect Family Life to be fraught with strife.  There's me vs. my parents.  There's spouse vs. spouse's parents.  There's me vs. my spouse's parents.  There's my spouse vs. my parents.  Children only make it worse.  Then there's his children from a prior marriage vs. my children from a prior marriage.

Remember THE BRADY BUNCH?  Could you put that on TV today and make it a hit?  Why was it a hit then?  (1969 and a film in 1995)



It was a hit because divorce had become common, but "The Family" was still strong.  An amalgamated family was plausible because despite the inherent strife between generations, Family was plausible in a way it is not today.

Remember The Waltons TV Series?

The Waltons On Amazon

Remember Little House on the Prairie?


If you don't remember them, you can probably get them streaming on Netflix etc.

As a writer, you have to learn to discern the intended audience's characteristics and interests by looking at the piece of fiction with a writer's eye.  But just because you're studying one thing, don't think you are allowed to forget everything else you've studied. 

One of the things with WRITING as a craft, discipline, business, and artform is that you must teach yourself in defiance of most every teacher you've ever had in a formal school setting.

In truth, nobody can teach you.  Honestly.  There are a lot of expensive courses in writing all over the web now, but the truth is none of them will do you any good at all unless you are completely free of the ideas in A) and B) above -- that you get punished if someone else misbehaves and that you must not look ahead in the textbook.

In fact, that trick of looking ahead in the textbook is the one thing that got me through college.  The very first day when I got the syllabus that said what the textbook would be, I'd run to the bookstore and get the books, then while in waiting rooms, around anywhere I was, I'd be reading the textbooks from back to front -- that's right, BACKWARDS, starting with the index and ending with the table of contents, until I understood what the course was about, what the underlying covert-curriculum thrust underneath the material actually was (whether the professor knew it or not, and it was usually NOT).

When I went to college, professors and TA's didn't take role call, didn't know or care whether you were in class (unless there was a pop quiz you needed to score on).  If you knew your stuff, you got the grade commensurate with what you knew.  They did not grade "on the curve" -- everyone in the class could get an A or an F and the administration wouldn't blink.  Everyone had an equal shot at an A because no rule forced the teacher to sort the class by statistics.

All you had to do was take the mid-terms and final.  Sometimes you didn't need to bother with the mid-terms if you aced the Final.  Some courses you could get credit for by just taking the Final before the course was given (History was one of those).  It was called "placing out" of the course to satisfy a pre-requisite for some other course.  Some courses didn't have mid-terms or quizzes.  A term paper and a final was your only chance.  Nobody cared whether you lived or died, and the other students didn't even know your name.  In that environment, you grow up fast or you flunk out.

There was no hand-holding or encouragement.  All that baby-ing of students stopped for me in 12th grade.  And I thought that was fine.  I had known it was coming and was looking forward to it with relish.  As soon as the hand-holding stopped, my grade-point-average shot up. 

The maturity gained from being treated like that is what I see lacking in today's college age people.  It takes them years after college to attain that level of maturity.  I strongly suspect that the cohesiveness of  FAMILY illustrated in those TV Series comes from having been educated in elementary school the way I was educated in college. 

I suspect that because I know that is how my parents were educated in grammar school and that's where they learned how to teach me to go to college and succeed.

That lesson is one of the reasons I love my parents.  They turned me loose in the world with a fully mature sense of self at about age 15 when I got my driver's license.  At that time license-age was 15 1/2, and kids that age had never smoked a cigarette or taken a drink of hard liquor, not because it was forbidden but because it was uninteresting and irrelevant.  I'm not kidding, this culture has changed that much that fast.

That environment where you must achieve certain goals without anyone supervising you to force you to do the work creates a sense of individuality -- a sense of Identity.  You don't have to do the 1960's thing of "finding yourself" because your Self emerges strong, very early in life, and can never be threatened by anyone else's behavior or misbehavior.

The key, I think, is that covert curriculum item of "nobody cares whether you live or die" -- what you do doesn't affect whether they succeed so they have no stake in you failing (thus no bullying).  No grading on a curve means how well you do doesn't depend  on how poorly someone else does.  Thus there's no reason to hate, resent, or undermine other students.

It is that strong sense of individual self that is the absolute bedrock requirement for the ability to Pair-Bond, i.e. to experience ROMANCE that leads to the HEA not to just another fling ir at best the HFN (Happily For Now).

Now, go back to the film SAHARA.  Like ROMANCING THE STONE this film has a back-and-forth, rescuing and rescued, between a guy and gal who eventually do get to have their dream-date-on-a-beach.

These films depict the forging of a Pair-Bonded Relationship based on two people having that strong sense of Self.  That kind of educational experience I outlined that produces Heroes (no wonder women were excluded from college, from becoming doctors and Lawyers -- they might then become Heroes.)

Remember the film LEGALLY BLONDE?


Remember we're talking about hammering at stereotypes?  The "dumb blonde" is a big one, and the dumb blonde beauty who's a lawyer?  Think about that in terms of the "nobody cares if you live or die" educational method producing Heroes instead of herds of cattle or nice tractable, obedient soldiers or employees all in a row.

That "nobody cares if you live or die" is the feeling that the street urchin gets, the tough street kid who grows up to be a boss (Mob or otherwise).

Now there's a difference in the effect of receiving that attitude at the age of say, 8, and at the age of 18.

FIRST must come the warmth, coddling, and protection of a strong family environment.  THEN comes being thrown out into the cold, cruel world to fend for yourself.  If you're never thrown out, or are thrown out too late in life, you never develop the ability to fend for yourself.  You remain dependent and in need of protection (read some Regency Romances written prior to say 1980, then some from today which overlay today's woman on the Regency heroine.)

So, given cell phones and social networking peer support groups that parents know nothing about, what kind of pair-bonding potential will this new generation have built into them?  (We're looking for the stereotype that will be popular to attack, don't forget that.)

If family bonds that are both vertical and horizontal are now shattered beyond repair, what next set of bonds are under attack?  And by what tools?

We've seen the advent of the "flash mob."  We've seen it used to attack social order by robbing stores for fun and profit; or even by robbing stories in the name of demanding justice for a kid shot by a Neighborhood Watch fellow.

We've seen flashmobs used to build a strong community (actually coming together to clean garbage off a street or spend time gardening or building houses for the poor.)

The flash-mob by itself is a neutral development, but the purpose a group chooses will be the result of the values of the individuals in the group.

Is the flash-mob itself our next stereotype or cliche to be hammered by a great film?

Remember the film, You've Got Mail?




Is school bullying the stereotype to attack?

Look carefully at this selection of films and TV series and ponder what the current set of 10 year olds (born in 2002) will be 10 years from now.  If you start on a film script today, that's about when it will hit the theaters.  Most original novels take about 5 years from "Idea!" to published book.  10 years for a First Novel isn't out of the ballpark.

Don't dismiss any of this famous-film-based perspective on our fiction market from your mind when you watch the political gyrations and contortions flow out of your TV News or Videos online.  If you can think both these kinds of thoughts at the same time, you'll have the belly-laugh of a lifetime!  "LEGALLY BLONDE indeed!"  Politics is, first and foremost, entertainment.  To understand politics (especially the ads on TV) you must understand the fiction market.

Also scrutinize the political map of the USA vs population density.  Notice how the fiction markets of New York and California differ from those of Kansas and Nebraska, then compare with Florida and Ohio.  A novel has to sell in all those markets, and a film must be a hit in New York and California to survive the first day in the theaters.

For reviews of 5 novels in terms of Tarot cards that represent their plot/theme structure, with a further discussion of  the concept of what is (or is not) "Fair" in our current culture, see my April review column, now archived here:  http://www.simegen.com/reviews/rereadablebooks/2012/

Jacqueline Lichtenberg
http://jacquelinelichtenberg.com

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Dialogue Part 3 - Romance Erotica vs. Porn

I was in a Romance writing discussion on Google+ and somehow the subject of porn came up. 

The question distilled from the discussion was: "How can a writer confront sexuality as a component of Romance with pure honesty, and still avoid writing porn?"

It seems obvious to me, and probably seems obvious to you as well -- but I've read a lot of Romance in various genre-mixtures, and I've only seen this done full-out, no holds barred, once -- and that was in a fanfic! 

But that's where I learned to look for this subtle but extremely distinctive signature that divides erotica from porn.  I believe the writer was a professional fiction writer who was writing fanfic because the story was organic to the TV show universe it was derived from.  But maybe she (or he? who can tell?) was simply a good writer who had never felt like writing professionally (I've known many fanfic writers who work that way).

The technique is very simple to say but very difficult to do.  In that, it's like the rule "Show Don't Tell" -- every writer presenting their work for evaluation and expecting praise believes with absolute conviction that they have indeed shown not told their story!  Even when they have not.

And this simple distinction between erotica and porn is just exactly like that.  Erotica writers believe they have in fact done this, when they have not.

The reader may not even notice the failing! 

That's because it's a technique which combines most of the craft techniques we've explored in these Tuesday posts on this blog.

You've seen an accomplished portrait artist doing an oil painting, comparing the painting to the subject, putting down one brush, picking up another, dousing the brush with this and that, daubing on a bit of color, putting that brush down and selecting another -- considering, and selecting another, daubing, etc. 

Writing a great sex scene is like that, at least the first few times you do it because you have to train yourself to the technique mixture.  In that, writing sex scenes is just exactly like writing "action" or "chase" scenes -- an artform within a precisely defined structure. 

Writing a great sex scene that isn't porn is just like painting a portrait.

A portrait isn't a photograph of reality; an erotic sex scene isn't REAL sex. 

Exactly the same thing is said of dialogue -- good dialogue is not transcribed real speech. 

Exactly the same thing is said of action  -- good fight scenes are not REAL fighting. 

Like a good portrait, a good sex scene is a selective representation of reality. 

But above that and more than that, a good sex scene is a SCENE. 

A "scene" is a clearly defined unit, a building block of story. 

Like a "chapter" a scene does not start in an arbitrary place nor does it end in an arbitrary place.  The "middle" point of a scene is not arbitrarily determined by dividing the number of words in half.

Like a novel, or a story of any length, a scene has a beginning, middle and end defined by what happens. 

Here's part 2 of an entry here on scene structure with a link to the previous part. 

http://aliendjinnromances.blogspot.com/2009/07/6-tricks-of-scene-structure-part-2.html
Here's a post with links to Verisimilitude vs. Reality series:

http://aliendjinnromances.blogspot.com/2011/10/believing-in-happily-ever-after-part-4.html

Here's Plot vs. Story
http://aliendjinnromances.blogspot.com/2009/08/plot-vs-story.html

Shifting Point of View
http://aliendjinnromances.blogspot.com/2009/01/shifting-pov.html

And what you can do in a Novel that you can't do in a Film:

http://aliendjinnromances.blogspot.com/2008/09/what-you-can-do-in-novel-that-you-cant.html

All of these blog posts introduce  concepts and techniques that must be orchestrated when you construct a sex scene that is not porn.

But we're talking here about the sex scene.

First and foremost, it must be a SCENE -- with all the components of a scene in their proper places and proportions as delineated in those previous posts.

Secondly, this peculiar scene, the sex scene, usually (not always) delineates an encounter between two people. 

These two people do certain things to, with, beside, and for each other -- they interact.

Read that last sentence again, carefully and think about it hard.  What does it really say about what the two people in the sex scene are DOING? 

One acts, the other reacts by doing something, to which the first reacts by doing something, to which the second reacts by DOING something. 

Read that last sentence again and think about it.  What does it describe?

Does it describe a fight scene?

Does it describe a conversation?  High Tea?  A waltz?  A chase scene? 

It describes any and all of the above -- including a red-hot-steaming sex scene.

Just like a conversation, a sex scene can be in total private, in complete public (such as on a stage before an audience), in private but overheard or peeped at, etc. 

So what exactly is a sex scene?  What distinguishes it from other scenes in a story? 

Is the distinguishing characteristic that the two people have, mimic, or approach and retreat from intercourse? 

If that's the case, what exactly is intercourse that distinguishes it from a) violence b) chase c) conversation? 

From the dramatist's point of view, strictly speaking, nothing distinguishes the sex scene from any of these other kinds of scenes. 

All of these types of "scenes" (violence, chase, conversation, dance, -- anything two people do) is fundamentally sexual in nature.

The key to good drama of all kinds (mystery, suspense, wargames, strategy-and-tactics of say, Napoleon, Civil War, Helen of Troy, King Arthur)  -- all of these kinds of drama are fundamentally sexual in nature, and the dramatic component takes its power, its fuel, from the basic human sex drive.

Watch some Indiana Jones movies with your finger on pause, and note down what happens in sequence in the chase scenes.  Strip that out into RISING and FALLING tension -- look at the pattern.  Use that pattern in a sex scene.  DYNAMITE.  Because that's what it is.

Or at least that's one way of looking at the world, or perhaps just the human world. 

Personally, it's not my way of looking at the human world, but it is a way that I learned to look -- as a portrait artist has to learn to see light and shadow instead of a person.  For me, it's an optical illusion, but a very useful one to a dramatist. 

So if all dramatic art is essentially just a sex scene, what's the difference between eroticism and pornography?

It must be a very fine line because most people don't see it and don't really care.  They either throw out all eroticism as porn or imbibe all porn as if it were mere eroticism. 

To me, that's like saying a novel that has a Vampire as a character must be a horror novel. 

That's actually a pretty good analogy because one easy way to get a handle on the difference between porn and eroticism is to understand the difference between "dark" and "light" in drama.

What is the difference between Romance and Horror? 

In publishing jargon, Romance is a genre and Horror is a genre, and you can't mix them because their formulas are opposite.

All good Romance has to have an HEA - a Happily Ever After ending. 

Romance may dip a tiny bit into the dark side of life, just for dramatic contrast, but the fundamental assumption of the nature of reality behind the Romance is the existence of the HEA, that it's real, permanent, attainable, and a final ending.  You get to win. 

All good Horror has to have an Equivocal Ending -- the nature of the universe is such that Evil can not be conquered by Good, nor can Good ever permanently be separated from Evil.  All happiness is "just for now" -- and Evil Will Rise Again.  Virtue, Honor, Good Deeds, etc do not exempt anyone from being wontonly destroyed by Evil.  Horror lurks in the basement of reality.  You can't win.

Which is true?  Probably neither.  These are marketing requirements, genres, not livable philosophies. 

But understanding these two views of reality can give you a start at grasping the difference between erotica and porn.

Erotica is of the Light.  Porn is of the Dark. (genre wise; not reality-wise).

To make the HEA possible, the couple involved in the sex scene has to achieve communication.  That two-way flow of emotional understanding is the essence of Love and of Happiness.  "When I tell him how I feel, he knows what I mean."  That's erotica.  It arouses the hope of fulfillment on a soul-level. 

In a reality where the HEA is not possible, nobody can achieve communication with anyone else.  Communication on an emotional level as well as a spiritual level is a thing of the Light - it makes us one with each other.  Porn is a thing of the dark.  It is self-gratification using another person without understanding that person's humanity or respecting the divine essence within the other human.   

Humans, possessing an animal body, can have sex without communicating with each other.  The exercise can go on and on, or repeat, without achieving an HEA, just as all animals do.  Humans can go through the gymnastics of sexual intercourse without communicating.  It even results in procreation!  Or not. 

And here's the shocker.

Humans can say words at each other without communicating, too. 

Think of a punch-and-judy-puppet show.  Round and round and round, with no resolution, no progress in the RELATIONSHIP, no change at the soul level.  That's porn personified.

Now think of one of those scenes where the feuding couple get trapped in a collapsed mine in the dark, or imprisoned in adjacent cells with only a hole to talk to each other through -- the raw, defenses-down-communication with rock-bottom confessions, self-admissions, etc, -- true honesty.  The relationship changes -- even if later, they deny it. 

Now here's the secret I learned from a fanfic writer about sex scenes.

A Non-Porn Sex scene is a DIALOGUE SCENE, even when no word is spoken.  

Caresses, movements, positions, shifts, touches of this part to that part, pauses for sensation to rise, fall, rise again -- it's DIALOGUE.

It's like sign language, a dialogue in movements. 

And like dialogue in spoken words, it's not transcribed reality. 

The rules for constructing such a conversation of caresses are the same as for constructing dialogue.

It's a discussion of problems.  If it's just hitting, venting, yelling and using the other person as your emotional garbage pail, then it's porn.  If it's a two-way dialogue, a problem solving session that results in a CHANGE IN THE SITUATION (as every scene must in a story) then it's erotica.

A sex scene is a scene first, sex later. 

It must advance the story, and must do so in a limited number of words (based on a percentage of the total number of words in the piece) or it will distort the pacing.

The same is true of a dialogue scene where the characters only pace the room and talk, exchange information, duel innuendo, threaten, plan together, whatever they're doing -- if it's done in dialogue, it is still a scene first, dialogue second, and must conform to the structural requirements of a scene. 

So there's the definition in a nutshell:

A sex scene is erotica if the participants communicate (albeit silently) to advance the plot and the story at a well-paced scene length toward a definitive resolution of the initial conflict.

A sex scene is pornography if the participants fail to communicate, and/or fail to advance the plot AND the story at a well-paced scene length and the activity does not lead to a definitive resolution of the initial conflict. 

I saw this video series on YouTube which crystallizes these notions precisely.

The screenwriting teacher (famous for his screenwriting) says a writer doesn't write dialogue, a writer writes STORY.



And that's it.  A writer doing a sex scene isn't writing sex, but STORY. 

Now go analyze the movie DIRTY DANCING -- the older versions are better for this exercise.  It's erotica, but by the standards of a culture long gone and buried, so you should be able to see the silent conversation with an alien's eye.  By the older cultural standards, this film was "edgy" -- i.e. on the edge of what is publicly acceptable.  Compare the older and newer versions for another lesson.

Jacqueline Lichtenberg
http://jacquelinelichtenberg.com