tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26974492.post115869253041858611..comments2024-03-28T18:54:13.800-04:00Comments on alien romances: What does it mean to be in love?Rowena Cherryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11839386556697211986noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26974492.post-1158936067541844902006-09-22T10:41:00.000-04:002006-09-22T10:41:00.000-04:00Fascinating. In his chapter on Eros in THE FOUR LO...Fascinating. In his chapter on Eros in THE FOUR LOVES, C. S. Lewis says the condition of being in love causes us to behave with a self-forgetful devotion to one other person's happiness and welfare that, if we were perfected saints, we would have toward everyone. His friend Charles Williams (in so far as I know and understand about his work, which is more difficult reading) seems to agree with your post -- when we fall in love with someone, we see the image of God in that person. Which relates to the "soul mate" concept you wrote about earlier. I'm still not sure if I believe in that in the sense some novelists (e.g., Christine Feehan) use it. I believe that God has an ideal plan for each of our lives, which includes the ideal mate (if we are in fact intended to be mated, rather than live a single life). However, if our free will causes us to deviate from the ideal path, Providence will direct us toward an alternative life in which we can also be happy, if we seek divine guidance toward that end.<BR/><BR/>"Soul mate" in the sense that we love the person's inner self, not his/her outward appearance? There's a cute country song currently popular in which the man says it won't matter if his wife's brown hair turns gray, because "I'm not in love with your hair."Margaret Carterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08293021955480708191noreply@blogger.com